What to do to change fate for the better. How to change fate for the better

There is a word: fate". Somewhere nearby, in the space of meanings, “rock” dangles. “Karma”, “chronic bad luck” with “unclosed gestalt” and similar constructions hang around nearby ... We use these words when we encounter repetitions. More precisely, with recurring situations. And, more often than not, these situations do not please us.

Here is an example from life. family of distant relatives. Husband, wife and two sons. Family relationships are great. The boys are just great. Athletic, positive, beautiful and smart. But ... each of them had 4 marriages. All unhappy. They did not go well with the work, although they were smart, and honest and educated. And… most importantly… They were both killed. About the same age.

This story made a deep impression on me as a child. For many reasons. I knew these people. I liked them. I saw the grief of their parents ... But all this is not the main thing.

My main sadness was related to how they themselves and those around them reacted to what was happening. This attitude could be expressed in two words: stupidity and fatalism.

Can destiny be changed?

Let's start with stupidity.

For some strange reason, none of the characters in this story thought about the reasons for these recurring events. Everything was limited to empty phrases: “they / we are unlucky”, “this is their / our fate”, “something is wrong with them / us” ...

Nobody tried to analyze, change or fix anything. These smart and good people continued to live as they lived, although everything said that it would only get worse in the future.

And fatalism...

The most surprising thing for me in this situation was their humility destiny. Moreover, these were not “vegetables”, but in many situations very active and strong-willed people. They were able and able to achieve and achieve. But all this concerned only external goals: getting an education, a sports category, meeting a beautiful girl, getting a prestigious and well-paid job ... There were no problems with this.

As for their inner world, they were absolutely helpless and, it seems, the thought did not even arise in their heads that they, too, could be sorted out and put in order.

Character and fate

This story came to mind when I myself encountered unpleasant repetitive situations. They were work related.

As part of my upbringing (and I was born and grew up in the USSR), I was convinced that you need to get a stable job and "hold on to your place." But it didn't work for me. Well, no way!

I could stay on one for no more than 2.5 years. Then everything. I was literally pulled out of my workplace. The reasons were different, but the result was the same: I had to get a job again.

At some point, I asked myself the question: “What should I do next? Continue trying to become a “normal person” or understand what is happening and why”?

I chose the second. I wrote down my “defeats” and “victories” related to work on a piece of paper ... And I immediately saw that the main thing in my relationship with any work is interest. And the antagonist is routine. As soon as my period of mastering a new topic or position ends, I need new tasks and challenges. Otherwise, I lose motivation.

Once I realized this, it became much easier for me. I have accepted this peculiarity of mine, not as a defect, but as a peculiarity which can serve me well. I cut out regular management from my life and switched exclusively to project work.

This immediately bore fruit. Startups and individual projects were limited in time, interesting and required a creative approach. And I succeeded! At the same time, I no longer had a feeling of inferiority.

Fate can be changed if you just look closely at the character and personality traits. Your own and / or those people with whom you are united by similar situations.

So the understanding came to me that repeated negative situations, if we discard mysticism, simply show us a discrepancy. For example, the inconsistency of our strategies with our capabilities or reality. Fate can be changed, if you just look closely at the character and personality traits. Your own and / or those people with whom you are united by similar situations.

Does a person dance to the tune of fate ... or his own inattention?

Working with clients, I constantly encounter such inconsistencies. For example, a person wants to be an "effective leader". He sincerely strives for this, goes through trainings, reads a lot... But the trouble is... He cannot force himself to constantly comply with everything that the written and unwritten rules of management require from him. It can't be everything! This is contrary to his nature.

Or another example: the leader sincerely considers himself an expert on people and a skilled motivator of employees. What about in reality? Key employees periodically run away from him. Sometimes in groups! What's the matter? He just doesn't like people. Doesn't feel them. And despises. And this is his reality, which turns out to be stronger than what he believes.

What to do in such situations, when repeated negative events occur? Look for inconsistency. First of all, between what you think and what you do, what you are. And, most importantly, look for patterns.

You can call fate what is really just a mismatch.

There are defense mechanisms in our psyche. They, in particular, defend our beliefs and hypotheses about ourselves and the outside world. These defenses can make us not see the obvious, in particular, not notice the similarity of various processes and phenomena, attributing their repetition to mystical events, fate, fate, karma.

I want to say a little more about this. There are defense mechanisms in our psyche. They, in particular, defend our beliefs and hypotheses about ourselves and the outside world. These defenses can make us not see the obvious, in particular, not notice the similarity of various processes and phenomena, attributing their appearance and repetition to mystical events, fate, fate, karma.

It looks very funny, but it manifests itself, sometimes far from harmless, in all aspects of our lives.

Even if you deeply believe in karma, fate or fate, do not rush to relieve yourself of responsibility. Try to make an effort to understand the reasons and find patterns in your life. And you will always have time to raise your “paws up”.

Here are two examples:

The young woman is a sales manager. She has a series of failures and the threat of being fired. When I ask if there is anything in common between the clients she has problems with, she very confidently says no. For her, they are all different.

I ask you to make a list of "refuseniks". It turns out that they are all men. Next, we find out their age and behavior. Again, a striking resemblance. And this similarity protective mechanisms do not allow to see!

Another example. Already from the personal life of a woman.

A woman talks about a series of men with whom "nothing worked out." I'm wondering if they have anything in common?

The woman, with 100% certainty, says no. They are TOTALLY different people.

Okay, let's check.

• The first man: a research worker, a joker, a merry fellow, a lover and a favorite of companies, a toastmaster, a storyteller and a talker.
• The second man: theater actor, poseur, bouncer and pathological liar.
• Third man: fitness trainer. She loves her body, is sensitive to her appearance, loves to be photographed.
• Fourth man: creative director. Always gushing with ideas, loves to surprise and fall in love with herself. She dresses very beautifully, speaks and draws.

Well, I say, it's obvious. All of these characters, at a minimum, have a demonstrative accentuation, if they do not have a narcissistic personality disorder. They're alike. And something in this similarity attracts this lovely lady. But, since she does not see this in common, she expects from these men what they are in no way and never able to give her.

Exercise

If repetitive and unpleasant situations happen in your life, you think that you have a “hard fate”, then it is highly advisable to conduct a simple analysis and answer a number of questions:

What exactly are these situations?

1. What events, actions, intentions and emotions on your part precede them?
2. If people are involved in these events, what features do they have (starting from physique and appearance, ending with character traits, value systems and behavioral stereotypes)?
3. What do you want in these situations?
4. What do you gain or lose as a result of these situations?
5. If your life and destiny were personalities, what would they want to tell you with these recurring situations?
6. What should you change in order to "learn the lesson of life" and stop the repetition of unpleasant situations?

This is the simplest thing you can do to deal with a recurring problem. If you want to explore your life and destiny in more depth, I recommend that you read another article. Do all the exercises from it and share with me the results.

Apr 10, 2017

The abyss is an abyss that is inexhaustible.

So is the interview of Radislav Gandapas, which I am reviewing for the third time.

I promise that this time is the last, for God loves a trinity.

And to be honest, I'm running out of decent words and patience. For the thoughts and judgments expressed in the interview are already far beyond common sense, coming close to psychiatry.

What is worth one thesis that in order to achieve success - the first skill that needs to be learned is the skill to like. This is followed by an enchanting passage that Mikhail Yuryevich Lermontov missed the appropriate training, as a result of which he was unsuccessful in society and showed off before a duel.

Let's start with Mikhail Yurievich ...

Apr 3, 2017

“For us, success is an assessment of society,” says Radislav Gandapas, the “guru” of success, in one of his last interviews.

The reference to an abstract society leads us to prostitution. If our success lies in the fact that some group of people approves of us, then we will inevitably adapt to it and spit on our own “subtle impulses” and deep requests.

Salvador Dali was expelled from the Madrid Academy of Fine Arts, Jack London's first book was rejected 600 times by publishers, Einstein was called mentally retarded by teachers, Steven Spielberg was rejected three times in a row, Bill Gates was expelled from Harvard University, and Anna Netrebko from the Conservatory. Such was the society's assessment of the aptitude and talent of these famous people.

Success is completely subjective and context dependent. You can consider yourself super-successful. This will be your subjective opinion about yourself. But now, for some reason, you move to a different social context. And suddenly you find yourself a complete loser in assessing the new social environment.

Success is a value concept associated with the internal ethics of a person. In one case, you will be a successful pickpocket, in another - a banker, in the third - an engineer. Social success in one group may be a crime in another and vice versa.

Mar 22, 2017

Dec 2, 2016

New Year's Eve madness slowly creeps out to the surface of life. The most advanced and progressive part of humanity sums up the results of the outgoing year, plans its next year and thinks about more distant horizons of development. To meet these desires of advanced people, trainings on goal-setting, increasing personal effectiveness, seminars on dream collages and other techniques for managing the future power of intention are helpfully going.

Jul 30, 2016

Any talent implies not only outstanding skills, but also recognition. How sad it is. Any talent needs either support or a frenzied self-confidence that allows you to do without any support. Do you have one, the other, or both?

It is obvious that every thought, word and action affects our future, leading to certain consequences, therefore they say “fate is in our hands”, because it depends on what we do at every moment. To change your destiny, you need to take responsibility for your future, study the theory of changing destiny and start putting it into practice.

There are proven ways to change lives for the better, and before us are twelve methods for changing fate, which are outlined in a lecture by O.G. Torsunov "Laws of Time, 2". On the video - the corresponding excerpt from the lecture. All these methods develop the human mind (increase its rationality), and with the development of the mind, the fate of a person changes for the better. This is practical knowledge that you can apply and get results.

12 methods to change fate:

1. Prayer. Prayer means contact with the Higher Power, connection with God, who is the root cause of everything. Ask and it will be given to you - this refers to sincere prayers. Thus, thanks to prayers, our destiny can change for the better.

2. Developing humility, which is achieved in three ways:
a) respect for parents, whatever they may be. In any parent you can find something for which they can be respected. (If a man respects his father, all obstacles in his social development disappear, he becomes a real man, gaining masculine qualities. If a woman respects her father, she gets a good husband. If a man respects his mother, he gets a good wife. If a woman respects her mother, she becomes a full-fledged woman and gets the opportunity to develop in society).
b) the study of scriptures (any religion that is close and understandable).
c) communication with spiritual mentors. If it is not possible to communicate live with spiritually advanced people, you can watch videos of their lectures, seminars, you can listen to audio recordings, or, in the worst case, just read their books or lecture notes.

3. Practice healthy habits and regulate your life. This includes following the daily routine, proper timely nutrition, keeping the body and mind in optimal condition. You need to do what is favorable, useful, and this is not always what you want to do. In other words, we must be guided by rationality, and not be led by unreasonable desires that lead to problems. And for this you need to study and understand what is reasonable (useful, favorable) and what is unreasonable.

4. Associating with wise people, as well as attending various ceremonies related to the service of God (any religious holidays).

5. Contact with auspicious objects:
- plants or aromatic oils (basil, frankincense, mint, roses, sandalwood, saffron and others)
- consecrated water (beneficial to drink on an empty stomach, sprinkle on the head, etc.)
- earth from holy places - favorable when it is in the house
- images of saints in the house - give strength and protection
- gems, but only if used properly

6. Need to develop selflessness donate to those in need (food, clothing, other support). It also means not accepting anything from others unless you need it. You can accept gifts, but don't get attached to it. The development of selflessness greatly changes the fate of a person.

7. Eat consecrated food and feed it to your family members. It is also auspicious to treat guests with consecrated food.

8. Refusal of unfavorable things, including bad habits, such as drinking alcohol, smoking, etc. This refusal should come as a result of understanding, and not by forcing yourself. You can easily give up something bad if you find a worthy replacement for it, do something useful, favorable.

9. Fasting and austerities aimed at curbing the senses. In the video, Torsunov tells in more detail which people should fast on which day of the week. On the day of fasting, it is recommended to occupy oneself with thoughts about God, reading spiritual literature, prayers and other favorable spiritual activities.

10. Refusal of bad deeds and bad character traits, repentance and forgiveness. You need to ask for forgiveness and forgive everyone.

11. Make an altar in the apartment on which to place an icon or other sacred object. It is also very auspicious for changing one's destiny to visit holy places.

12. Joint prayers and donations. When a person participates in such an event, it clears his mind and strengthens his mind.

This is a brief summary of Torsunov's lecture and the corresponding video clip. To understand more about how to change your destiny, listen to other lectures on this topic, this will be part of the “2c” method, and such listening in itself will gradually change your destiny. The study of wisdom develops the mind, and the more intelligence, the better the fate of a person. The more of the above methods we use in our lives, the faster our destiny changes.

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It is easier for humanity to accept as truth what is not proven and materially does not exist, than to set a goal and change its destiny. Whoever wants to bring changes and thinks about how to change fate, it would be more expedient to think about their actions, draw timely conclusions, make the most reliable decisions in the future and take responsibility for their lives, while stopping blaming fate, which allegedly owns people's lives. The choice always exists and it determines the life of every person.

It is impossible to disprove or prove with the help of arguments or material facts the existence of destiny. Most often, fate is associated with mankind with an unknown main line of life, in which everything is predetermined, and what must happen, both negative and good, will certainly happen. And if an individual wants to avoid any events, then he will not be able to do it.

In parallel with such a judgment, the following question arises: if fate cannot be changed, then what is the point in the development of each individual personality. After all, no matter how a person tries and improves, everything will remain as it was intended and no changes will occur. This is a utopian concept of thinking: if you are destined to experience suffering, then you will not evade it. If you are destined to become someone, then you will definitely be, despite the lack of desire. A paradoxical conclusion. A person who finds himself in this trap of the mind remains in place, because he is confused and, having not found a solution for himself, draws conclusions that slow down his spiritual growth. A person begins to think like this: if I am not able to change anything in life, then, therefore, my choice in different situations is unimportant, and I am not responsible for life and actions.

Such an argument encourages a person to live in a range of two extremes. And a person begins to either burn through life, indulging his instinctive nature, because there is no point in doing anything, since everything happens according to a scenario of fate. Any act will be right, because the individual will not go beyond the bounds prepared for him by fate, or will lead a lifestyle from the position of the victim. In the position of the victim, a person, at his own request, takes away his spiritual power, hinders his own will. With such a worldview, an individual's life appears as a series of unfavorable events that cannot be bypassed. In order to ease their suffering, people are forced to accept a "bitter" fate, hoping that it will become easier in the future. These extremes have nothing to do with spiritual development. Spiritual development includes a conscious choice and responsibility for one's actions.

A little theory about the existence of fate

In spiritual teachings, a higher spiritual order is singled out that does not have contradictions, for this it is necessary to go beyond mental limitations, looking at the problem with a spiritual broad look.

To understand how a person is connected with fate, you need to turn to authoritative sources. In Sanskrit (the ancient literary language of India), fate denotes karma, which in turn is interpreted as a chain of causal events.

Studying the spiritual teachings about karma, a person's life is presented as a series of his actions. Every action he does, no matter what it is: thought, desire or deed, is a cause for future and a consequence for past events and actions. This means that each act that has taken place brings a chain of events, consequences, which in turn create the following events. Good deeds activate preferred events, bad deeds attract a series of shocks and difficulties to a person. There is a folk wisdom on this subject, reflecting the essence of this law: "what you sow, you will reap."

The karma of a personality should not be considered in the physical plane, the spiritual development and evolution of a personality does not end with physical death.

The law of causes and effects is universal, it works in all planes of being. Spiritual teachings say that every action causes a chain of events, and these events can occur both in the present life and in future incarnations.

However, each person has free will and choice, and this is her strength, the key to prosperity and. In spiritual teachings, one can read that a person is an all-powerful creature with freedom of choice. Due to this freedom, a person draws exorbitant spiritual strength or completely destroys himself, carrying out certain actions according to his choice.

Therefore, spiritual teachers, knowing the truth, do not indulge the weaknesses of the disciples, calling them to responsibility for their life deeds. Each person, finding himself in a certain life situation, has many options, what next step to take, he only needs to choose.

In Indian culture, karma is determined by an astrological chart, which is drawn up according to certain rules. If we refer to the Vedic scriptures, then they highlight that fate is divided into two components. The scenario of life is given from birth, but a person can change it for the worse or for the better, thus two karmas are mixed. One fate (karma) is what is predetermined, the second karma is the actions of a person.

The life line is arranged in such a way that over time, programmed desires and events come to a person. If a person wants to improve his fate, then he should live in goodness, strive for love, something good and bright, thus improving karma at the present moment and in the next incarnation. If an individual wants to make things worse, then one must lose heart, complain about life and it will be even worse. This is what the Vedas say.

A similar assertion was made in ancient China: there is a certain corridor - this is fate and a person can choose which border (upper or lower) of the corridor he will go. It is required to mentally prepare for difficult periods, smoothing the corners.

In other spiritual sources, you can find other information about fate, however, in general, there are two directions:

1. There is karma (fate) that can be changed within certain limits.
2. There is no fate, and a person is the master of his life.

And yet, how to change fate? Fighting with yourself will allow you to bring changes in your life. And any victory over oneself begins with a personal choice of how to live, what values ​​to develop in oneself, with whom to communicate. In personal choice, a person is free. The main thing is to decide what kind of person you want to be. And everyone makes this choice independently.

Many justify their choice by circumstances, the behavior of their parents, total misfortune or karma. However, fate is not the outcome of random circumstances, it is the result of choice. Fate is important not to wait, but to create. Many ignore the right to choose, remaining in the comfort zone, and everyone has it. Use their right unit. Often a person does not have time to think about it because of family, children, work, thus missing his chance to change his fate.

Canadian scientists conducted research in particular Q-testing and came to the conclusion that humanity is slowly becoming stupid. Since in most everyday situations people do not want to admit their guilt, but attribute everything to fate. Almost immediately, fate is to blame, because it is she who is so bad. The people themselves do not even want to think about what will happen to them after any action, thereby bringing certain consequences closer for themselves, thereby choosing just such a fate for themselves.

The purpose of the experiment of Canadian scientists was to find out why people so insistently believe in fate, believing that all life events do not happen by chance. Researchers believe that the need to look for reasons in everything came to people from the distant past. They argue that this ability of the human brain was at first significant for survival, since the important skill to notice the causes, as well as the consequences of the actions of others, made it possible not to become prey to predators. To date, scientists are convinced that this ability repeatedly makes people attach importance to many things that actually do not represent anything of the kind and firmly believe that everything that happens to them is controlled by unknown supernatural forces.

How to change fate for the better? Initially, you need to change your character. For some time it was believed that changes in character cannot be made, since it is innate. So, it is real to change the character, it is impossible to change the temperament, because. it is responsible for the strength and organization of the nervous system.

Often people want to become different under the influence of a temporary impulse (a loved one quit, a boss scolded, etc.), and when life gets better, any desire to improve oneself disappears and life passes. This indicates a lack of willpower and motivating factors. Character is made up of habits, thinking, ways of responding, the degree of influence on the world around us and the activities performed. By making changes to the listed components, there will be dramatic changes in life. There is no destiny except that which man creates himself. The future is uncertain, so believing in fate is stupid.

Faith in fate is the choice of those who "go with the flow", who have come to terms with everything that happens around. It is very easy to shift responsibility from yourself to fate. People who accept the unhappy circumstances of life do not want to fight, to seek change for themselves. They believe that nothing in this life is subject to change. You can't escape fate.

Often a person has a question about destiny or predestination of fate, because if a person feels his calling, then this is already a kind of predestination. Of course, every person is predisposed to something and in some way limited in something. This does not need proof, as it can be observed.

If we touch on psychology, it will become clear that each person has borders within certain limits. If we study the fate of famous personalities, we can notice that along with talents, they had different limitations and achieved success in a particular area. This means that a person is objectively conditioned, for example, by his body, upbringing, his nature, time and country in which he grew up; accidents and circumstances beyond his control. This conditioning already presupposes a certain life scenario. For example, seeing a girl with a model appearance, one can already assume that in the future she will want to link her fate with the modeling business, or a child who grew up in a family of musicians can repeat their professional path. But that doesn't mean that's exactly what will happen. The choice remains with each individual.

And yet, how to change fate for the better? The individual always has a choice in how to live. For example, whine or fight; be angry or happy; watch TV or work; demand or thank; take offense at fate or change it; develop spiritually or materially; be happy or unhappy, etc.

Thus, any individual has a choice how to live in the circumstances, which will change fate. Much has been said about this in the holy scriptures of various religions, as well as in the works of psychologists. Personal choice determines a lot in fate, and what is happening to a person now and will happen in the future depends on the decision made at the moment. This should always be remembered.

Speaker of the Medical and Psychological Center "PsychoMed"

The wife (45 years old) divorced her husband (he preferred another lady), asked about opening a profitable concrete institution. Appearance is ordinary, she did not have time to get an education, she did not work, wanting to open an institution, she has no experience and does not plan to acquire it. The personality is interesting for its self-confidence, it seems that she considers herself a Star, a Beauty and everything that is noticeable and best (radiations are noticeably expressed). It was necessary to help her make a choice between two fans. Time passes. A nervous man comes, excited, asks what he should do next, he opened an institution for her, works in it, calls the woman last words. I am interested: "But you were not forced," he replies: "I love her infection." A win-win option is the feeling of being a "luminary", the main thing is to choose the right object that should pay attention to radiation.

For love, age is not a hindrance

Once an elderly lady (about 80 years old) came. She was most interested in the question "How long will I live?" and one more "I have pimples between my legs, what should I do?" Embarrassed, she explains that she recently got married (her husband is 84) and they have an intimate relationship. Thanks to my grandmother, I had a rethinking, a definition was formed that for love, for feelings, for intimacy, age is not a hindrance. (Young, pretty, unsure of their uniqueness often came, doubting their future marriage, successful relationships, inventing various unreasonable problems for themselves, hoping that only Fate could change something).

Change is necessary for oneself

A girl, 16 years old, was ready for suicide, crying, holds out a photograph (in a magazine) and asks her to help her become the same as in the photo. The fact is that she liked the guy, but he apparently did not like her, and without thinking twice he poked at the photo and said that this one was to his taste. Of course, I had to calm the girl down, explain that this was a ridiculous joke, that she would meet her betrothed. This is how people spoil their lives for someone else, they think that by changing their appearance they will attract the attention of their beloved, this is a gross mistake that carries serious consequences. Another matter if changes are necessary personally to itself.

It is important to have mutual interests

The girl did not pay attention to the fans, she wanted to meet sublime mutual feelings. At the age of 32 she met a worthy man in her opinion. (But, in my opinion, there were many "buts", the Man turned out to be much older, three marriages behind, there were children, the nationality is different). Now they have two children, but there are many problems, the past constantly makes itself felt, the age difference plays an important role, relatives are unhappy because of inappropriate nationality. There are many such cases, nevertheless, it is necessary to more clearly represent the presence of not only love, feelings, but the presence of mutual interests. It is important to take into account your own qualities, ask yourself "Such as me, will suit my ideal", maybe something in yourself needs to be changed, developed. It is wrong to wait, rely solely on Fate, expecting that she herself knows who is best suited. (After all, alien programs can also invade life). In this case, it turns out “I go there, I don’t know where, I meet something, I don’t know what, and then, as a rule, a baby appears, the family breaks up, and the mother does not understand who the child is growing into?”

Destiny Adjustment

Fate, no doubt, exists, but you can "agree" with it and correct it. Typical case. The girl is a little over 30, but there is no one in her personal life, but already I want a baby, a family. The character is not easy, there are too many complexes, the upbringing of the family had a noticeable imprint, not for the better. Considering the fate of the girl, I couldn’t see anything comforting on her question (I didn’t tell her about it), but I tried to explain what her problems were. The girl came a week later, during which time she met a guy, which she didn’t even hope for, she really liked him, well, it’s understandable that she wanted to know what was next. I was surprised that in such a short time everything has changed so dramatically. Asking "What happened?" she replied "After the conversation, she thought a lot, cried, took time off from work, after 3 days she came to her senses and met a guy." (After we met, everything went well with her). This incident happened a long time ago, then it was a wonder the concept of adjusting Fate, but with practice I noticed that a lot can really be changed, but for this you need to change your thinking.Therefore, you should not unequivocally expect a clear answer to questions about death, about diseases, everything can be turned for the better, the main thing is to do it in a timely manner. It is difficult to see ruined Fates at an age when much can no longer be changed (children are born on time), time heals, but also takes away chances.

Make a difference instantly

A similar memorable case. A woman (64 years old), having lost her husband, decided to sell the dacha, as she was unable to take care of her. The dacha is in a good location, but for 5 years there was no buyer. She was interested in the issue of selling, I could not see the sale of the dacha, I explained the reason - my wife and husband did everything on it themselves, they planted a garden, built a house, she fell in love with every twig, pebble, because of affection she could not part with her. The lady turned out to be with character, she quickly heard, understood the reason. In the evening she called and said that a buyer had been found, and in the morning she happily told about a successful deal. Many similar cases explain how you can instantly change the situation, it is worth thinking differently.

Is the truth always true?

A woman a little over 50 complained about her financial situation, she worked as a seller, but the trade was bad. To the question: "Have you tried to be friendlier with customers?". She answered with surprise, rudely, "Is it possible in our time to smile at someone and fawn?" The woman was offended, embittered at the world, at everyone. I didn’t intend to change my profession, as I always worked as a salesperson, but I didn’t plan to change either, because I was sure of my verdict. After all, it is clear that it is always easier to make transactions with a friendly, friendly seller, although the seller in reality may have many reasons to behave differently. Many people mistakenly choose the path of "putting the truth, their own opinion about the environment out", but is the truth always appropriate?

driven horse

Once a lady affirmatively declares: "I am like a driven horse, I work four jobs (a cleaner), I get very tired, but there is not enough money for anything?" The very posing of the question tells the reason. Whoever feels like a "squirrel in a wheel", a "driven horse", a "cash cow", let him not be surprised by the problems, poor financial situation, as well as frequent nervous breakdowns, shocks. Seeing yourself as a "fluffy, affectionate, free-spirited kitty, loved by the owners" is much more effective.

Forces turn their gaze

It's good when you see the reason, explain it, and the Man, having heard it, changes, works on himself. But there are times when it’s done, you don’t know what to answer, there is no main single specific reason, there are so many of them (many unsolved problems stretching from past incarnations). It's good if the individual somehow works on himself, but there are people who don't want to change anything, but they want to live well. Once a woman (over 50) came, but she looked much older, turned out to be an orphan, she didn’t get married, she didn’t give birth to children, there was no job, no man, no friends, no good friends, but there was a house for housing. I'll never know what to answer her, so as not to disappoint, "hope dies last." Not finding worthy advice, words, I propose to read the Bible. The woman does not mind, but there is no way to do it (to buy a Bible - no money, no one to ask). I had to give my own, asking to return the book. To my surprise, this woman comes about a month later, I look at her and am amazed, as if she is glowing from the inside, she has noticeably prettier outwardly. She returns the book happy, grateful, and reports that she has found a job, met a man. She answers that the book was always with her, she could not read it, because everything was incomprehensible to her. Having again considered Fate, much has changed for the better. The Higher Powers always look to people who sincerely turn to them, not asking, not demanding something specific, but simply hoping for the best. They know the needs of a Human.

Unwanted situations

Often people, being in old age, ask a question about death, they are interested in how it will overtake them. With experience, I noticed what the individual thinks about it, what fears he experiences and programs his departure. One grandmother asks: “My daughter is far away, I would meet death on my feet, otherwise who will take care of me lying down?”. Another person will ask, it would seem, the same question, but the emphasis will be placed not on the legs, but on the bed: "If I am lying down, what if no one is around?". What for to program to itself undesirable situations.

Sorry for the negative

Once an alarmed woman came who had lost her loved one (accident), from whom she gave birth to a son (19) years old, the national question did not allow them to live in marriage, the mother of the beloved opposed. The heartbroken mother often calls this woman and curses her son, wishes that she also lost him (her own unrecognized grandson). The son reassured the mother, said: "do not take it to heart", grandmother, with her wishes, "sent far away." The question is not uncommon, unpleasant, but in this case the mother misbehaved. Curses certainly work, they don't ask if you want it or not. The son did not accept verbal curses at his address, he understood in his hearts that his grandmother was delusional, grief destroyed her. But the mother accepted her curse, absorbed the negative program, "putting it on" her son. In such difficult situations, it is important to try not to take to heart the words spoken of a negative quality, they do not always have power, out of grief, the person often does not know what he is doing. It would be nice to first weigh everything properly, think about why, why, feel the grief of the injured person, sympathize, understand him, think about what my reaction would be in the place of this person. It’s not worth taking a lot of time to think, so as not to “blow an elephant out of a fly”, then let go of the situation, forgive the person for the negative sent, wish all the best from the bottom of my heart. Thus, if not completely, then at least partially the sent negative is neutralized. It happens that an individual reconsiders his attitude and becomes a friend.

think of the best

There are frequent cases when a teenager comes home at the wrong time, does not make itself felt. Anxious parents begin to worry about calling hospitals, morgues, the police, this happens regularly. Understandably vigilance can save in time. But here lies something else, but the teenager may have gone on a spree at the party, was offended by his parents and decided to "punish" them. Worried parents, thinking about the worst, program problems, even if Destiny does not have this program, then the parents “write it in”. If the worst is destined to happen to an individual, even in this situation, parents must control themselves, program, think about a better, positive outcome, this program will send, "weave" protection. It's easier to gently talk about your feelings with your teen and ask them to report delays. But if the parents are against it, they scold the child, then it is unlikely that this will affect him, he will still do it his own way, and having decided to call, he will know that, since they will not support him, they will not understand why spoil everyone's nerves at the moment.

footrests

A typical situation is when relatives, relatives put trips. A person does not understand why, because in the past they shared everything, supported each other. You need to be able to analyze not only other people's actions, but also your own. Time changes circumstances, there is rivalry, hidden grievances. You should always understand the problems of a loved one. Why with a friend who has not had a man for a long time to share stories about his romantic relationship with her husband, it is not surprising that one day this husband will be close to his girlfriend. You should not give expensive gifts, showing your financially successful position to a person who has always considered himself better, more successful, but today nothing is “gluing” with him. Why then be surprised that he created the problems that appeared, the intrigues. When buying lottery tickets together (successful marriage, career growth, conceived achievements), why expect that the losing loved one will sincerely rejoice for the winner. After all, he understands that the chances were equal, but he does not understand why they did not choose him, and if this happens regularly, then the loser will either leave, or will accumulate resentment, disappointment. The rarest case when a close friend from the heart, unbiasedly rejoice at the victory of a comrade. Even between father and son, mother and daughter, disagreements and rivalries are not uncommon, although they understand that a successful individual will share values.

Endurance wins a lot

People create problems for themselves. It seems to them that it is their problem that is important, if not for it everything would be different, they are looking for support, tips, help, sympathy. Sometimes one wonders how a traveler really keeps up with problems, not paying any attention to them, while another directs all his efforts to solving relatively non-existent, imaginary problems. Once a woman came with the only question, she could not get a disability for a child (1 year old). It turned out that the woman has an eldest son, 15 years old, but the invalid could not get up on his feet, her husband left, did not provide material assistance. I was surprised that my mother did not lose heart, she was happy, satisfied, energetic, well-groomed. I could not restrain myself and asked what helps her to stay like that, not at all embarrassed, she says: “look at my son” in the stroller lay a pretty, smart one-year-old baby, apparently by energy, but the size of the legs is like at birth. She continues, looking at her son tenderly with love, "I have for whom, for what to live, to fight." After that, we accidentally ran into the administration, for about 4 hours I ran, did the paperwork, and this woman stood in line, held her son in her arms, apparently they didn’t give up her place, everyone is angry, nasty, dejected, stark, but she shines, smiles, does not lose heart . Endurance, positive mood wins a lot,

Every person can change his karma if he knows and puts into practice 3 simple principles! Read carefully…

What will be discussed?

1. Why are most people hostage to external circumstances?
2. What is your destiny leading you to? Predicting your own future!
3. How to change fate and reverse the course of cause and effect relationships?
4. 3 mandatory rules so that negative karma does not “return” back!

Why are most people hostages of external circumstances?

Have you noticed...

… that some people constantly complain that their life is not successful, and scold everyone they can: parents, society, culture, government, millionaires, poor service in stores, bad weather conditions, etc. etc.

And for others, on the contrary, everything goes like clockwork - and money comes from the air, and circumstances are successful, and fate now and then showers with gifts ...

What is unlucky karma¹? Someone is born lucky, and someone is destined to live his whole life poor and unhappy? Or is it all wrong?

What is karma?

This is the law of cause and effect, according to which a person's life is the result of his actions.

In fact, every person can change his karma and become successful if he is familiar with the principles of will and effort.

Moreover, anyone can succeed in absolutely any field. Yes, for someone it will happen faster (when the abilities are already laid), and for someone it will happen more slowly (if the necessary qualities have to be developed).

However, most people do not understand these principles and are hostages to the circumstances. They believe that everything that happens to them does not depend on them. But it's not!

Every thought, every choice, and every action is not isolated. They lead to new thoughts, new choices, and new actions. And any action gives a result in the form of external circumstances.

Let's look at an example...

Look at this tree with apples >>

What is an apple? This is the result of the growth of the tree over time. With this block you can compare your current life. All your successes and all your difficulties were created only by you, and now you can appreciate the fruit of your efforts.

• How successful, happy, prosperous is your apple (your current life)
• How much are you loved, and how much are you loved?
• What is your current financial situation?

Where is your destiny leading you? Predicting your own future!

If, as a result of answering questions, you understand that your “apple” is “juicy, ripe, beautiful and sweet”, then everything is in order, continue to live the way you live.

But if not? If your life does not satisfy you, and you cannot boast of your successes? Then it is worth evaluating to what future your thoughts and actions lead you.

Let's take the financial industry as an example...

Do one simple exercise.

Take the 10 people you interact with the most and ask each of them how much their monthly income is roughly. Then add up all the values ​​and divide by 10. Compare the resulting amount with your income.

If it's more than your monthly salary, great. In the near future you will reach this level. And if this amount is less, then your actions and your environment will lead you to reduce your income level.

To understand how your thoughts and actions affect other areas of your life, take a self-knowledge lesson and complete all the tasks. You will discover amazing things. This lesson you

At the end, sum up your future!

Everything that you have marked with a “-” sign (what you are not satisfied with now) will bring you a “-”, and everything positive, respectively, will result in a “+”.

This is the law of cause and effect. And in order for it to start working for you, and not against you, it is worth reviewing the foundations of your life.

How to change fate and reverse the course of cause-and-effect relationships?

To demonstrate this clearly, let's return to the picture with our tree. What made the apple grow? That's right, roots. They are the ones who feed the fruits. The same is true in life. If we accept the fact that any of your actions, any of your choices first occurs in your head, then you can derive the formula:

M => H => D => R

Where M is the thoughts that give rise to H (feelings). Feelings in turn lead to D (actions), and actions give R (result).

Therefore, in order to change your life, you must first of all discover those thoughts that led you to the current "apple", and then begin to change them to the opposite.

This requires will and effort.

3 simple principles that will help change karma karma for the better

1. Change the vision of the world.

When you have identified your negative thoughts that led you to your current result, start saying the exact opposite thoughts whenever they appear in your head. And speak confidently and confidently. Remember, thoughts lead to feelings, and feelings lead to actions. Therefore, you need to be as convincing as possible for yourself.

2. Focus on what you want.

What you focus on is what gives you results. If you think about what you do not have, then this will no longer be in your life. If you think about the bad, then the bad will only increase.

But if you focus on what you really want for a long time by an effort of will, you will be able to rebuild the course of cause-and-effect relationships with your consciousness.

For a better realization of the intention, embody the plan in your inner world. The brighter you imagine what you want, the brighter your emotions will be, the faster you will begin to act in the right direction.

3. Dedicate the results to the Higher Powers.

Each intention and action must be internally offered to God (Higher Forces) or to your Higher Self. This inner self-giving will hasten the realization of your intention.

3 mandatory rules so that negative karma does not “return” back!

Rule 1 - never blame anyone!

To blame means to shift responsibility. The one who blames always depends on the circumstances. If you always proceed from the fact that you yourself create your own destiny, you will really begin to create it, and in the way that you need.

Rule 2 - never complain about anything!

Complaints put a person in the position of a victim, and the victim a priori depends on external circumstances. Moreover, negative energy is contagious. The more you complain (or listen to other people complain), the more trouble you will get in your head.

Rule 3 - never make excuses to anyone!

Only the victim of circumstances is justified, and a person who builds his own destiny accepts failures as an experience from which one can build on and do better.

Don't even make excuses to yourself! Accept that you may not be perfect in some way, and give yourself a mindset that next time you will try to do your best to make the result better.

Only in this way can you change your karma and become lucky.

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Notes and feature articles for a deeper understanding of the material

¹ Karma, kamma - one of the central concepts in Indian religions and philosophy, the universal law of cause and effect, according to which the righteous or sinful actions of a person determine his fate, the suffering or pleasure he experiences (