Some people have good jobs but still struggle with money. We suggest you use three simple ways, thanks to which you will forever forget about material problems.
Many people fail to understand why money problems overcome them, despite the fact that they are trying to improve their financial situation. There can be a lot of reasons for lack of money, and it is important to get rid of them in the near future.
Why financial difficulties arise
First you need to understand the reasons why you may have problems with finances.
Negative energy can block cash flows, which often causes financial difficulties. In this case, the negative repels the energy of money, and it is necessary to fight with it.
Money energy is very sensitive. She is able to respond to emotions and fears that a person will experience, and some of them can push her away. For example, envy, laziness, greed scare away money energy and attract additional problems. If you experience such feelings often, you should work on yourself.
The reason for the outflow of finance is often uncontrolled spending. Every person sometimes needs to give in to wanting to buy something, but in any case, you need to consider your financial capabilities.
Method one: clean the house of negativity
The first way to get rid of money problems is the easiest, since you only need to do a general cleaning and rearrangement at home. As you already understood, negative energy is one of the main causes of financial difficulties. Regular cleaning will help get rid of it.
Start cleaning from the farthest room of your house so that negative energy can eventually leave your home. Do not forget about hard-to-reach places, since most often people pay less attention to them, which is why much more negativity accumulates there than in other places. Dust chandeliers, lamps, small figurines. Finally, do not forget to wash the cornices and thresholds, as they are a real magnet for negative energy.
If you want to get rid of negative energy forever, and with it, money problems, then you will have to say goodbye to some things. First of all, this applies to objects with which you have negative memories. Things that call for inexplicable hostility are also best thrown away immediately. Usually, such feelings arise due to the fact that your energy is trying to fight the negative energy of these things, so they have no place in your home.
With the help of cleaning, you will accelerate the flow of positive energy, which means that financial problems will remain in the past.
Method two: a talisman for money
Money talisman is another effective way to get rid of money problems forever. We have already talked about amulets that attract money, but it is best to use a charmed coin as such a money magnet.
Very often, people use Chinese coins to attract money, but if you do not have the opportunity to purchase it, you can make a talisman from any coin. It is best to conjure a coin on the Full Moon, since it is at this time that the conspiracy effect will intensify due to lunar energy. Put the coin in the water all night so that it gets moonlight. Then say:
“Let one coin attract a whole wealth behind it.”
In the morning, take the coin out of the water and put it in your wallet, preferably in a separate pocket, so as not to accidentally spend or lose it. If the charmed coin disappears, you can spell another coin in the same way.
Method three: a simple money ritual
You can use a proven ritual that will help you get rid of financial problems and increase your income.
You will need:
- new wallet;
- patchouli oil;
- bill.
Even our ancestors used patchouli oil to attract finance, as it has special energy properties. Get a new wallet in advance and before you start using it, put a few drops of patchouli oil inside, and then put only one bill in it. It is forbidden to use the wallet during the day.
After this time, you can put the remaining money into the wallet. Periodically drip patchouli oil into the wallet so that the flows of monetary energy do not dry out, and then problems will always bypass you.
In addition to the above methods, you can attract financial well-being into your life with strong prayers. We wish you wealth and success, and don't forget to press the buttons and
“I was unlucky in my life from the very moment of my conception ...” - this is how the elderly professor began this story, when he was already completely tired of our constant lamentations. And we, a group of businessmen, entrepreneurs, managers who came to the University of California in the late 90s to get new technologies in marketing and PR, “wailed”, exclusively on the topic: “of course, it’s good for you to talk here ... if we had such taxes / laws / teachers / parents / money / opportunities ... etc. were, - we would .... ". And then a beautiful story followed that "we would" ...
He left the pulpit, sat down somehow sideways on the first desk and uttered this very phrase: “I have been unlucky in my life from the very moment of my conception ...”
- Want to tell your sad story?
- Of course! we nodded. And prepared to pity him.
Here I am citing his story in my presentation - as I heard it, as I remembered it. Not only memorized, but learned. For life:
- I was unlucky in my life from the very moment of my conception ...
My father, who survives with random money from loading and unloading, disappeared from my life as soon as he found out that his underage girlfriend - a mulatto girl who prefers a nocturnal lifestyle - "has flown." He was blown away by the wind! Therefore, I am fatherless.
My bad luck was just beginning... The young mulatto, although she endured me almost to term, but only when she heard my first cry, immediately, on the delivery table, refused me. So I, a weak, defenseless baby, who had just come to this alien, unfamiliar world, was left all alone ... Screaming from hopelessness into this entire Universe in the arms of a midwife.
Further - more ... I was fatally unlucky ... I was not adopted in infancy - I was a very weak, sickly child. In addition, in those years, born of a mulatto, I generally had little chance of being adopted. Therefore, from the Baby House, I went straight to the orphanage.
Well, here it is ... no luck - so no luck! It was an orphanage for "colored" children, of which we were not there ... I experienced everything in full on myself: how the Chinese fight, and how the Mexicans spit, and how painfully the blacks pinch ...
I was not lucky with my studies either… The teachers did not stay long and changed all the time. Yes, to be honest, and not in all subjects they were in our orphanage at all. Therefore, with the school, I, too, as you understand, did not work out. Well, just - total bad luck! ...
…He paused. He sat in silence, looking somewhere at the floor ... Then he raised his eyes to us. Of course, we sympathetically waited for the continuation of this story, not understanding why he started all this at all - after all, we argued so nicely over marketing problems only half an hour ago.
I'm tired of telling you this, - he suddenly said, - This is not my story ... Do you want me to tell you MY?
A dumb pause ... We could only nod our heads, because we were already completely lost: where is whose story, why is he telling us all this at all, and even the English language for many was not just given in its subtleties.
And my story - that's ... - he continued.
In general, I am a very lucky person!
I was lucky right from the very moment of my conception, when my unlucky dad disappeared from the life of my, no less unlucky, mother, and at the same time from my life - once and for all! Perhaps he felt that he could not give me everything that would help me survive. I am grateful to him for his decision ... Who knows what I would have grown up and what would have become of me if my infancy and childhood had passed next to him. Perhaps he intuitively understood that this weak kid could never become strong next to him and therefore silently retreated. And I am grateful to him for that.
And meanwhile, I continued to be lucky.
The young mulatto refused me right on the delivery table. And it was already a success! Because if she had taken me from the hospital, I’m not at all sure that I would have survived ... And so I, although weak, premature, had a chance! Chance for life! And she gave it to me ... My unlucky seventeen-year-old mother. I am grateful to her for this refusal of hers. And even in my thoughts I don’t want to imagine how and where I would have lived, how and where my childhood would have passed if she had not abandoned me then. Her refusal also gave me strength. After all, announcing the Universe with my first cry, I already understood that I had no one to rely on in this life, I was alone ... And this, probably, still causes some kind of concentration of internal energy, you see ... - he smiled.
I was lucky I wasn't adopted as an infant. Otherwise, I, a sickly, weakened baby, would probably have received very comfortable greenhouse conditions and the care of the people who adopted me, but would this help me become stronger and more self-confident? Somehow I think not. It was life in the orphanage that taught me resilience: I learned how to fight from the Chinese, I adopted their “tweaks” from the blacks, and I can spit like hell! Isn't that luck!
Well, with the school - it's generally - a separate song! There were not enough teachers and several subjects used to be taught by one person. In high school, we somehow became friends with a biology teacher who was a “walking encyclopedia” for us - he was so enthusiastic about his subject. And (what luck!) he also taught us mathematics, which allowed us to meet in class every day! We talked a lot. Of course, I only had excellent grades in his subjects. And when the question arose of choosing a college, I did not hesitate to go where mathematics and biology were needed.
Then there was the university.
Then - scientific work.
A family. Children. grandchildren. Great-grandchildren…
I'm glad I was born under a lucky star!
And I am grateful to Fate for luck.
He continued to sit on the edge of the desk with a smile. And we “digested” everything we just heard ...
Here are two stories, two views on the same life, - he said, getting up from his desk and raising two open palms in front of him, like scales, - which one do you prefer?
No one knows exactly what bad luck is, but there are people who fall out of their hands. And they have always been, as long as a person remembers himself. Laughing at the losers began in ancient satirical literature, and unlucky people are still the favorite heroes of comedies. But if you are constantly unlucky in life, it is not at all funny, because regular bad luck has consequences:
- The disorder of life.
- Dissatisfaction.
- Loser complex.
- Prejudice from others.
- Low self-esteem.
Not everyone will be able to endure all this; one cannot do without the presence of the spirit, the ability to self-irony, the strength of the will. There is not a single unlucky person who would not want to break the vicious circle and regain at least a rare success in business.
The phenomenon of bad luck has been studied from all sides in order to understand what is still special about people who do not succeed. Conclusions have been made.
- No organic features. Neither physiology, nor genetics, nor biochemistry make a person less fortunate. There is no organ, gene or hormone that can affect luck, in this regard, all people are on an equal footing.
- No esoteric. There is absolutely no connection between luck and date of birth numbers, zodiac sign, religious affiliation. Capricorns do not get into stupid situations more often than scorpios, and even if you were born on Monday, this does not threaten you with anything.
- Psychology. The fun starts here. Psychological tests show that unlucky people have the same set of traits, and more specifically, similarities in their way of thinking and behavior.
There are people who are chronically unlucky in life, because this is how circumstances develop. This is a very rare occurrence, but according to the law of large numbers, there is nothing unusual about it. You should not cite it as an example as a refutation of what was said below, consider this an exception to the rule.
How does “bad karma” work in terms of psychology? It's simple: a thought repeated 5, 10, 100 times turns into a program. The program determines the outcome of some situations not in your favor. The negative outcome of some situations is transformed into an experience, and your subconscious mind remembers that here, here and here you are not lucky. If there is a significant counterbalance in the form of a positive experience, then nothing happens, you estimate your chances by the average - about 50/50. If there are more positive experiences, you say "I'm lucky" or "I'm good," depending on the question. If there are significantly more negative experiences, you conclude that you are a loser and begin to live with this thought.
An attentive reader should have noticed that in our “layout” a thought turns out to be the result of exactly the same thought. Where did it come from, if there was no preponderance of negative experience before it? We answer: there might not have been an advantage, but the negative experience was all the same, everyone has it. This experience can be perceived as part of life, or it can be dramatized and turned into a tragedy, thereby giving it a far-fetched significance. Parents often do this: “all children are like children, you alone are not of this world”, “well, how can you be such a slut / confused / muddler”, “and who did you only degenerate from me”, etc.
For parents, these are just words, but the child constantly receives information from parental conversations, first of all, this is information about himself. For a long time she replaces his own opinion, which has not yet been formed. Here lies the cause of all evils: a person was instilled with the idea of inferiority from childhood, the thought was transformed into a negative experience, the negative experience served as an evidence base for low self-esteem and disbelief in the possibility of success.
stop reasoning
Positive experience is the only thing that can remove the “loser program”. You can explain to a person who has not tried sugar a thousand times how sweet it is, they still won’t understand. And if you give it a try just once, the understanding will remain for life. So it is here: tell a person at least every day that he is no worse than others, he will simply ignore your words. But let him be convinced of this in practice, and he will immediately perk up.
When an unlucky person begins to talk about his chances of success in a new business, he is doing himself a disservice. Judge for yourself, what is he capable of reasoning and calculating? He feels like a failure, he was told about this from childhood. He has a bunch of failed undertakings behind him. He knows well what shame and censure are, and he knows that soon he will have to taste them again. To argue in this case means to talk about your misfortune once again, to resign yourself to fate in absentia and enter the phase of waiting for failure.
If you want to get rid of bad luck, learn to act with "clean" thoughts. It means solving problems as they come, don't load yourself with the expectation of failure, don't feel sorry for yourself, don't look around for judgmental or mocking looks. All this takes more energy from you than the action itself.
Engage in every action to the limit
We live in a competitive world. In order not to fail, you need to be faster, stronger, smarter and smarter than your competitors. Unlucky people are characterized by a defeatist position: “well, I’ll try, but I won’t strain much, it won’t work out anyway.” Imagine a boxer who enters the ring with the thought “why am I going to jump and strain, he will still lay me down in the fourth round.” Can sport exist with such an approach of an athlete? No. Trial involves effort and struggle. If you are sure that you will lose, either first undo it, or find something not so unambiguous for yourself.
Change your approach
From many modern guys you can hear the phrase "I'm not lucky with girls." We ask in response:
And what are you doing? Do you meet on the street, in clubs, in theaters?
- Not.
- Do you invite someone on a date?
- Not.
- Well, at least on the Internet with someone you write off?
- Also no.
- So how can you be lucky when you do nothing?
This is, of course, an extreme example. Most people, even those who have been unlucky at everything for a long time, still make some effort, but often they come down to the endless repetition of one chosen scheme. This is called a "tick for show", it is used by those who subconsciously want to shift the responsibility for their problems to "bad luck". That is, there was a formal attempt, maybe not even one, but 10, this gives the right to say "I tried, but I was not lucky." In fact, to apply the same obviously non-working scheme is not an attempt, but an excuse.
Change approaches, look for different ways to achieve the goal. The more attempts and paths, the higher the likelihood that everything will work out.
Build Self-Esteem
Self-esteem is not the same as conceit. The opinion is subjective, the assessment is based on experience, we have already talked about this above. This is the main regulatory factor on the basis of which you decide whether to take on an undertaking, or whether it is not up to you. It happens that the case is really unbearable, and if you overestimate yourself, you will let your comrades down. In this case, the inner voice will dissuade you correctly, and you better listen to it.
But when self-esteem is low, that voice is all the time, no matter what you do. For some people, this voice does not even allow them to go outside, because unpleasant events may await there. Such hyper-anxiety in thoughts should be paid attention to and seen by a psychotherapist.
Repeat after others
It does not happen that some people are always lucky and in everything, while others are not lucky in anything. You are either doing something wrong, or there is a psychological explanation for your bad luck. Imitation is a way to test yourself: all you need to do is to adopt someone else's model of behavior in a problem situation and see what happens. Regardless of the results, you will learn a lot, the main thing is not to tune in to failure in advance.
Visualize
It is believed that there is no such action that can be imagined and cannot be performed. Regular visualization does not have magical properties, as some "mystics" assure, but it can act as a stimulus for the psyche. In your imagination, you can easily do those things in which you are especially unlucky. With each time, the conviction will grow that not everything is so bad.
Share experience and adopt someone else's
Group therapy is very popular in the US, and for good reason. Two people who find themselves in a similar situation are able to pull each other out in the truest sense of the word. And if there are a lot of people, the effect increases proportionally. The bottom line is that having someone else with the same problem means that you are not alone in this world, that the problem is not personally yours, and you can deal with it together, not one on one.
Teach someone else how to be lucky
This is no joke: when you teach, you take responsibility for the success of another. This is a strong incentive to explore the subject, it can make you inventive, instill healthy excitement and motivation. You are already trying not for yourself and you can’t just “turn on the indifference”. This is how inveterate hooligans were brought up before - they were given patronage over others. The method itself is so old that Confucius is credited with its invention.
Placebo effect
Come up with a talisman or ritual for yourself, get a happy hamster or give your life partner the status of a muse that brings inspiration and luck. Breathe a little mystical romance into your fight for fortune, let it bring you pleasure, like a children's game of wizards. Feel free to believe in nonsense, they will work if you want it.
Keep a diary
A diary is needed to record progress. Every time you succeed or get lucky, write a line in your diary. In a month, you will collect a whole evidence base that you are not a loser. As soon as doubts begin to overcome, it will be enough to look through the diary for them to evaporate. You can only record wins, you can count losses too, it doesn't really matter. In the worst case, the score will be equal, and with due diligence, it will inevitably change in your favor.
In life, total bad luck rarely happens just like that. If you are wondering “Why am I always unlucky?” There may be several reasons:
1. You want something that you don't really need, so you have no conditions for it to come into your life. You want a millionaire husband, super handsome, kind and caring. Or at least one of the above. But at the same time, you do not even go to those places where such people meet and do nothing to even remotely resemble the woman who may be of interest to them. Because in fact - you just like to dream about such men, but you know that they do not suit you and few of them are a good husband.
2. You do not try at all to ensure that it is, or you have such shortcomings that the desired will never come true. For example, you want to be rich, but you have neither a special education, nor a business streak, nor even the ingenuity of a fraudster, besides you are lazy, do not like to study, are constantly late and sleep until dinner.
3. You just enjoy being a loser. Behind this state, you can easily hide from responsibility for your life, fold your paws and listen to how sorry you are.
In the article “Choice or Fate”, I spoke in detail, based on the research of mathematicians and physicists, about what in life depends on us, and what does not depend in any way and what to do with it. Today we will talk about luck from the point of view of psychology. Although, to begin with, you still need to know one important point - mathematics is able to calculate the probability of luck with high accuracy. There is a "mathematical theory of luck", "game theory" and so on, which in many ways can open our eyes to our problems.
Luck as such does not exist. Why are some people lucky and others not?- a rhetorical question. There is cause and effect for the things we do. If we previously “twisted things up” or, on the contrary, were inactive in anticipation, now we are reaping the fruits of our mistakes. Although this is understandable. People are usually interested in not such global cases. Quite different situations are often cited as examples. A beautiful girl, there was no end to fans at school, and in adulthood she lives in a odnushka with her mother and works part-time in 2 shifts in order to survive. The ugly girl married a millionaire and lives in sunny Miami, basking in love and prosperity. What's wrong?! It is not so that we usually see only the outer side of events. Miami millionaires don't choose unsuitable wives. In general, the wife of a very rich man is a special woman who is not enough to be just a 19-year-old blonde with a pretty face. Such go with him in mistresses. The wife plays a completely different role - she is a reliable person, usually initiated into business, able to behave in accordance with the status and having the necessary acquaintances or able to successfully make and maintain them. This applies at least to real rich people, and not to "meat kings", "toilet barons" and other semi-criminal individuals who made quick capital on leftist schemes. Therefore, their approach to choosing a wife is completely different, and one of them could well marry a not very beautiful, but reasonable and calm girl. Moreover, beauty with big money comes with time. At the same time, the school beauty went the other way. Easy victories among her classmates created the habit for her that everything should come quickly and without much effort. But real life is not a school, and here quick success rarely has a good path. Having turned the wrong way a couple of times and contacted the wrong people, she let her youth down and "went into circulation." Now she has become wiser, but not enough to understand what's what and to have the strength to build a life from scratch.
Another example. The aforementioned quick success has a double bottom. In order to be a wealthy person, one must either work hard and have an inclination, or "fit" into the "fornication" and have a lot of impudence and courage. Both ways lead to money. But they have different endings. Only a few from the second group go further, for the rest everything ends up with either “puff” or problems with the law. But others see only external signs, so they say - "lucky fools."
This is about luck. Now about the opposite, about total bad luck. Pitch failure is almost always the result of habit and bad temper. Well, or a complete misunderstanding of the laws of life, infantilism, absent-mindedness, isolation from reality. A person with immature thinking, who does not know how to analyze and draw correct conclusions, constantly steps on the same rake, which leads to a solid black streak. Girlfriend of immaturity - lack of responsibility for their behavior. Therefore, a person from time to time will blame the circumstances and other people, but not himself. And that means getting into trouble again. As one of my acquaintances, who dreams of getting married, but at the same time looking for a wife exclusively in Moscow nightclubs. Imagine what kind of contingent there. This forms his idea of women as corrupt and narrow-minded. But he does not want to look at others, because he likes just such a type. He is already 40 - he seems to be still looking for. Already drinking with grief, but stubborn!
Gestalt therapist Jorge Bukai said: “If you find yourself in a dead end, don’t be an idiot, go out where you entered.” It's funny, but about 50 years before him, the writer and mystic Hovrad Lovecraft - who got us hooked on the Cthulhu cult - said almost the same thing in one of his works: "The exit from this terrible glass prison is only in the same place as the entrance to it." Find what started it all. To stop a series of failures, you need to take the following steps:
1. Want to change your life
2. Understand that the reason is 90% in you and find it.
3. To grow up - which means to take responsibility for your mistakes, try to correct them, learn to analyze and stop looking back at others.
4. Decide what you really want in this life and make a plan for the implementation of your plan.
5. Do not give up after the first setbacks, which will happen anyway.
6. Don't be afraid to make mistakes.
7. Don't be afraid to start over.
8. Don't turn down opportunities and offers of help.
