For love, age is not a hindrance
Once an elderly lady (about 80 years old) came. She was most interested in the question "How long will I live?" and one more "I have pimples between my legs, what should I do?" Embarrassed, she explains that she recently got married (her husband is 84) and they have an intimate relationship. Thanks to my grandmother, I had a rethinking, a definition was formed that for love, for feelings, for intimacy, age is not a hindrance. (Young, pretty, unsure of their uniqueness often came, doubting their future marriage, successful relationships, inventing various unreasonable problems for themselves, hoping that only Fate could change something).Change is necessary for oneself
A girl, 16 years old, was ready for suicide, crying, holds out a photograph (in a magazine) and asks her to help her become the same as in the photo. The fact is that she liked the guy, but he apparently did not like her, and without thinking twice he poked at the photo and said that this one was to his taste. Of course, I had to calm the girl down, explain that this was a ridiculous joke, that she would meet her betrothed. This is how people spoil their lives for someone else, they think that by changing their appearance they will attract the attention of their beloved, this is a gross mistake that carries serious consequences. Another matter if changes are necessary personally to itself.It is important to have mutual interests
The girl did not pay attention to the fans, she wanted to meet sublime mutual feelings. At the age of 32 she met a worthy man in her opinion. (But, in my opinion, there were many "buts", the Man turned out to be much older, three marriages behind, there were children, the nationality is different). Now they have two children, but there are many problems, the past constantly makes itself felt, the age difference plays an important role, relatives are unhappy because of inappropriate nationality. There are many such cases, nevertheless, it is necessary to more clearly represent the presence of not only love, feelings, but the presence of mutual interests. It is important to take into account your own qualities, ask yourself "Such as me, will suit my ideal", maybe something in yourself needs to be changed, developed. It is wrong to wait, rely solely on Fate, expecting that she herself knows who is best suited. (After all, alien programs can also invade life). In this case, it turns out “I go there, I don’t know where, I meet something, I don’t know what, and then, as a rule, a baby appears, the family breaks up, and the mother does not understand who the child is growing into?”Destiny Adjustment
Fate, no doubt, exists, but you can "agree" with it and correct it. Typical case. The girl is a little over 30, but there is no one in her personal life, but already I want a baby, a family. The character is not easy, there are too many complexes, the upbringing of the family had a noticeable imprint, not for the better. Considering the fate of the girl, I couldn’t see anything comforting on her question (I didn’t tell her about it), but I tried to explain what her problems were. The girl came a week later, during which time she met a guy, which she didn’t even hope for, she really liked him, well, it’s understandable that she wanted to know what was next. I was surprised that in such a short time everything has changed so dramatically. Asking "What happened?" she replied "After the conversation, she thought a lot, cried, took time off from work, after 3 days she came to her senses and met a guy." (After we met, everything went well with her). This incident happened a long time ago, then it was a wonder the concept of adjusting Fate, but with practice I noticed that a lot can really be changed, but for this you need to change your thinking.Therefore, you should not unequivocally expect a clear answer to questions about death, about diseases, everything can be turned for the better, the main thing is to do it in a timely manner. It is difficult to see ruined Fates at an age when much can no longer be changed (children are born on time), time heals, but also takes away chances.Make a difference instantly
A similar memorable case. A woman (64 years old), having lost her husband, decided to sell the dacha, as she was unable to take care of her. The dacha is in a good location, but for 5 years there was no buyer. She was interested in the issue of selling, I could not see the sale of the dacha, I explained the reason - my wife and husband did everything on it themselves, they planted a garden, built a house, she fell in love with every twig, pebble, because of affection she could not part with her. The lady turned out to be with character, she quickly heard, understood the reason. In the evening she called and said that a buyer had been found, and in the morning she happily told about a successful deal. Many similar cases explain how you can instantly change the situation, it is worth thinking differently.Is the truth always true?
A woman a little over 50 complained about her financial situation, she worked as a seller, but the trade was bad. To the question: "Have you tried to be friendlier with customers?". She answered with surprise, rudely, "Is it possible in our time to smile at someone and fawn?" The woman was offended, embittered at the world, at everyone. I didn’t intend to change my profession, as I always worked as a salesperson, but I didn’t plan to change either, because I was sure of my verdict. After all, it is clear that it is always easier to make transactions with a friendly, friendly seller, although the seller in reality may have many reasons to behave differently. Many people mistakenly choose the path of "putting the truth, their own opinion about the environment out", but is the truth always appropriate?driven horse
Once a lady affirmatively declares: "I am like a driven horse, I work four jobs (a cleaner), I get very tired, but there is not enough money for anything?" The very posing of the question tells the reason. Whoever feels like a "squirrel in a wheel", a "driven horse", a "cash cow", let him not be surprised by the problems, poor financial situation, as well as frequent nervous breakdowns, shocks. Seeing yourself as a "fluffy, affectionate, free-spirited kitty, loved by the owners" is much more effective.Forces turn their gaze
It's good when you see the reason, explain it, and the Man, having heard it, changes, works on himself. But there are times when it’s done, you don’t know what to answer, there is no main single specific reason, there are so many of them (many unsolved problems stretching from past incarnations). It's good if the individual somehow works on himself, but there are people who don't want to change anything, but they want to live well. Once a woman (over 50) came, but she looked much older, turned out to be an orphan, she didn’t get married, she didn’t give birth to children, there was no job, no man, no friends, no good friends, but there was a house for housing. I'll never know what to answer her, so as not to disappoint, "hope dies last." Not finding worthy advice, words, I propose to read the Bible. The woman does not mind, but there is no way to do it (to buy a Bible - no money, no one to ask). I had to give my own, asking to return the book. To my surprise, this woman comes about a month later, I look at her and am amazed, as if she is glowing from the inside, she has noticeably prettier outwardly. She returns the book happy, grateful, and reports that she has found a job, met a man. She answers that the book was always with her, she could not read it, because everything was incomprehensible to her. Having again considered Fate, much has changed for the better. The Higher Powers always look to people who sincerely turn to them, not asking, not demanding something specific, but simply hoping for the best. They know the needs of a Human.Unwanted situations
Often people, being in old age, ask a question about death, they are interested in how it will overtake them. With experience, I noticed what the individual thinks about it, what fears he experiences and programs his departure. One grandmother asks: “My daughter is far away, I would meet death on my feet, otherwise who will take care of me lying down?”. Another person will ask, it would seem, the same question, but the emphasis will be placed not on the legs, but on the bed: "If I am lying down, what if no one is around?". What for to program to itself undesirable situations.Sorry for the negative
Once an alarmed woman came who had lost her loved one (accident), from whom she gave birth to a son (19) years old, the national question did not allow them to live in marriage, the mother of the beloved opposed. The heartbroken mother often calls this woman and curses her son, wishes that she also lost him (her own unrecognized grandson). The son reassured the mother, said: "do not take it to heart", grandmother, with her wishes, "sent far away." The question is not uncommon, unpleasant, but in this case the mother misbehaved. Curses certainly work, they don't ask if you want it or not. The son did not accept verbal curses at his address, he understood in his hearts that his grandmother was delusional, grief destroyed her. But the mother accepted her curse, absorbed the negative program, "putting it on" her son. In such difficult situations, it is important to try not to take to heart the words spoken of a negative quality, they do not always have power, out of grief, the person often does not know what he is doing. It would be nice to first weigh everything properly, think about why, why, feel the grief of the injured person, sympathize, understand him, think about what my reaction would be in the place of this person. It’s not worth taking a lot of time to think, so as not to “blow an elephant out of a fly”, then let go of the situation, forgive the person for the negative sent, wish all the best from the bottom of my heart. Thus, if not completely, then at least partially the sent negative is neutralized. It happens that an individual reconsiders his attitude and becomes a friend.think of the best
There are frequent cases when a teenager comes home at the wrong time, does not make itself felt. Anxious parents begin to worry about calling hospitals, morgues, the police, this happens regularly. Understandably vigilance can save in time. But here lies something else, but the teenager may have gone on a spree at the party, was offended by his parents and decided to "punish" them. Worried parents, thinking about the worst, program problems, even if Destiny does not have this program, then the parents “write it in”. If the worst is destined to happen to an individual, even in this situation, parents must control themselves, program, think about a better, positive outcome, this program will send, "weave" protection. It's easier to gently talk about your feelings with your teen and ask them to report delays. But if the parents are against it, they scold the child, then it is unlikely that this will affect him, he will still do it his own way, and having decided to call, he will know that, since they will not support him, they will not understand why spoil everyone's nerves at the moment.footrests
A typical situation is when relatives, relatives put trips. A person does not understand why, because in the past they shared everything, supported each other. You need to be able to analyze not only other people's actions, but also your own. Time changes circumstances, there is rivalry, hidden grievances. You should always understand the problems of a loved one. Why with a friend who has not had a man for a long time to share stories about his romantic relationship with her husband, it is not surprising that one day this husband will be close to his girlfriend. You should not give expensive gifts, showing your financially successful position to a person who has always considered himself better, more successful, but today nothing is “gluing” with him. Why then be surprised that he created the problems that appeared, the intrigues. When buying lottery tickets together (successful marriage, career growth, conceived achievements), why expect that the losing loved one will sincerely rejoice for the winner. After all, he understands that the chances were equal, but he does not understand why they did not choose him, and if this happens regularly, then the loser will either leave, or will accumulate resentment, disappointment. The rarest case when a close friend from the heart, unbiasedly rejoice at the victory of a comrade. Even between father and son, mother and daughter, disagreements and rivalries are not uncommon, although they understand that a successful individual will share values.Endurance wins a lot
People create problems for themselves. It seems to them that it is their problem that is important, if not for it everything would be different, they are looking for support, tips, help, sympathy. Sometimes one wonders how a traveler really keeps up with problems, not paying any attention to them, while another directs all his efforts to solving relatively non-existent, imaginary problems. Once a woman came with the only question, she could not get a disability for a child (1 year old). It turned out that the woman has an eldest son, 15 years old, but the invalid could not get up on his feet, her husband left, did not provide material assistance. I was surprised that my mother did not lose heart, she was happy, satisfied, energetic, well-groomed. I could not restrain myself and asked what helps her to stay like that, not at all embarrassed, she says: “look at my son” in the stroller lay a pretty, smart one-year-old baby, apparently by energy, but the size of the legs is like at birth. She continues, looking at her son tenderly with love, "I have for whom, for what to live, to fight." After that, we accidentally ran into the administration, for about 4 hours I ran, did the paperwork, and this woman stood in line, held her son in her arms, apparently they didn’t give up her place, everyone is angry, nasty, dejected, stark, but she shines, smiles, does not lose heart . Endurance, positive mood wins a lot,The hawk-nosed freak grinned mischievously. He squinted one eye, as if winking. The lower lip hung down like a soggy dumpling. I was sick.
- See? Well, now you see?! howled Mikhailovna, wiping her sweaty forehead. - On death here it is made, on death!
- I see ... - I murmured with bloodless lips, turning away from the wax figure.
Having absorbed my energy, the molten wax showed what I was most afraid to see ...
Can destiny be changed?
Half past five. Dawn is coming soon. Half-bent I trudge to the kitchen for a drink. She didn't close her eyes all night. Thoughts, thoughts, thoughts...
Mom won't survive. What is all this for?
- My daughter is very small. They would have given higher powers for at least a couple of years, to grow up.
- How to change fate, is it possible to do something? I want to live. Live!
- You have to tell Lenka. She will definitely help mom and children at first, if anything.
Lenka: cocky and arrogant "laugher"
I just want to ask: “Well, why are you smiling, huh?” Maybe the last time we see each other, and she neighs like a horse. Did you laugh?
- Nu, and that your soothsayer? Didn't offer a way to change fate for the better?
- Len, everything is serious there. To death. To rent is very expensive, and there are no guarantees.
Wrapped in a scarf, the wax figurine migrated to the hands of her best friend.
- Tell me now that there is no fate!
- Well, why not? Both yes and no, Lenka winked slyly at me.
Who is stopping us from changing our lives?
You know, when death is on the doorstep, it's not up to show off. I had to listen to Lenka. I thought it would be esoteric with philosophy, but it turned out to be pure science. System-vector psychology.
She explains: indeed, there are things that a person does not choose. And it is not only the place of birth, family and living conditions. The most important thing that we do not choose is the structure of our psyche. Nature just gave us a certain set of qualities, properties and desires from the cradle (a set of vectors). And how they develop depends on the environment, which in childhood also almost does not depend on us. The environment does not always have a beneficial effect: it happens that since childhood we pick up false attitudes from it or get psychological trauma and anchors.
So is it possible to change the fate of a person or is it predetermined?
Can!
We are able to reveal the device of our psyche. Pull to the surface and become aware of any hidden psychotraumas, anchors and false attitudes that you managed to get. Get rid of them. And make the most of what nature has given.
How to do this in order to forever change fate and life for the better? To begin with, it is important to understand what exactly we want to change and why.
Why do people want to change fate
We want to change fate because we are unhappy. The human psyche is designed as a vessel for receiving joy, pleasure, enjoying every moment of life.
But all unhappy people are unhappy in their own way. One suffers because there is no money. The other is because the family did not work out. The third suffers, because everything is there, but there is no meaning in life. That is, the realization of desires brings us joy and pleasure, but each has its own (depending on the properties of the psyche).
For example, people with a visual vector enjoy bright, strong emotional experiences. The range of sensory states they have is simply huge. In a minute, the mood can change from gushing joy to unbearable longing. But it is not always possible to “get” joyful, happy experiences for yourself. And you still want to live brightly and sensually every moment of life. How to change fate in order to enjoy life?
And this is where different methods come into play. Someone "tickles" their nerves with horror films. Or heartbreaking, scandalous stories - even on TV, even from girlfriends. The other, hidden from himself, not understanding why, begins to provoke others to scandals (gets a strong emotional shake-up). A rich imagination helps the viewer to see an elephant in a fly, to spin a whole drama out of nothing.
And we, the audience, are afraid for our lives. Constant fear compensates for the lack of emotional experiences. Sometimes it is mild anxiety, sometimes it is a strong fear up to panic attacks. It is fear for ourselves or loved ones, for the future unknown to us, that pushes us to seek the interpretation of dreams, listen to astrologers, seek answers to questions from fortune-tellers and healers.
How our fortunes affect fate
Even hidden, unconscious fear can spoil life in a big way. For example, in childhood you were often scared, you forgot to think about it for a long time. But the repressed fear has not gone anywhere: it remains in the unconscious and “distorts” the whole fate. There are only such partners who are inclined to humiliate, insult a woman. Or even raise a hand to her. And we rush about: what is this - damage, the evil eye? And the reason is simple: representatives of the opposite sex catch hidden fear through pheromones. And it is precisely those men who are unconsciously looking for a “victim” who are drawn to you.
It happens that the natural sensuality of the viewer is suppressed by false attitudes. For example, as a child, you were forbidden to cry, to express your feelings. And in adulthood, it is not clear why the fate-villain “throws up” worthless men: drinkers, insolvent, dysfunctional. In fact, the feeling of love in such a woman is “launched” only through pity for the poor, precisely because with ordinary, normal men, a ban on the manifestation of feelings works.
Many factors could play a role in the fact that your psyche was “stuck” in fears or received traumas and false attitudes. And now it’s normal to realize your properties does not work out or does not work out completely. Not understanding the reason, we find out how you can change the fate of charlatans, fortune-tellers and other lovers to profit at someone else's expense - but there is no point. Fate does not change. What to do?
How to know and change destiny for real
Finding out fate does not mean finding out from astrologers the exact day and hour when the notorious brick should fall on your head. To know fate is to know yourself, to reveal everything that has influenced your psyche until today. Everything that has shaped you has shaped you the way you are.
Changing fate for the better does not mean finding the advice of an illiterate grandmother and paying fabulous money for her muttering at the icon with a candle. To truly change your life is to reveal all the hidden psychotraumas and anchors that have managed to harm you. Find and neutralize all the false installations that deformed your life script. Everything that we bring to the surface from the unconscious and become aware ceases to control us. And yet, to change fate is to recognize and fully realize all the talents and qualities inherent in nature.
For example, the ability to empathize and sympathize with people makes the viewer indispensable in the work of a doctor, social worker, volunteer. A rich imagination finds an excellent realization in the work of an artist, designer, photographer. When your psyche is free from fears, then any visual “premonitions” result in creative inspiration. And man creates masterpieces of fantasy and beauty.
How to change the fate of a person for the better: examples from life
To be honest, Lenkin's results bribed me the most. After Yuri Burlan's training, her life changed qualitatively: her sores went away, her work got better, and she met a worthy man. I followed her example, I also went through the training.
Natural sensuality opened like a flower. The desire to tremble in fear and try to “lay straws” for each next step has disappeared. But it became interesting to focus on the experiences, states of other people. To reveal the whole Universe inside everyone. With exciting oceans of his experiences, ups and downs. It turned out that in this case, people themselves are drawn to you, relationships both in a couple and in society develop in the best possible way.
And System-Vector Psychology literally helps to reveal the thoughts of any person. After all, our psyche “speaks” in key words, and they convey everything about the states, thoughts and intentions of people. When you understand people, understand who is in front of you, you can build relationships consciously and without fear.
Postscript: Karmych
After the training, my sensuality and rich imagination are fully realized in creative work. All areas of life improved. And Lenkin's birthday present is still hanging over the table. She creatively framed the nosed dwarf for me in a funny frame. His name is Karmych. She also promised to sculpt her husband so that she would not be bored. And what? Karma and Karmych - advice and love.
The number of people who, after the training of Yuri Burlan, got rid of superstitions and any fears is growing and multiplying. They happily build their own lives, consciously managing it. Changing fate is a simple science, if you understand how everything works.
“... Before the training in Systemic Vector Psychology, I was fond of esotericism, went to fortune-tellers. At some point in time, I realized that I couldn’t do it anymore. I wanted to stop reading books with esoteric themes, to stop going to trainings (simoron, synthon). I wanted to live like all normal people, without any of this nonsense in my head. I felt like a stranger in this world. Tried to get into books on psychology. But there are 300 pages of water, many, many words, but there was no clarity and understanding. System-vector psychology helped me with this. The realization of my passion for fortune-tellers, esotericism came. I understood the reasons that I was drawn to them ... "
“... Passing lectures does not give ready-made answers, but gives tools and concepts to get them and root them in yourself on your own. I feel like a traveler who is well equipped and ready to go anywhere ... I realized that my life is in my hands, that I can organize it. The lack of predetermined protocols suddenly became a great and real boon ... "
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In order to understand whether it is possible to change fate, you need to find out what exactly is meant. What is this about? This term is usually called the destiny (higher) of a person and those events that he cannot avoid in life. At a simple level, this means: marriage, the realization of talents, the opportunity to earn money, illness. All this, as the esotericists say, we choose for ourselves even before coming into this world. It is also believed that we have all this drawn on the palm of our hand.
Is it possible to change fate so as not to suffer?
It's good when a person is given talents and charm. He lives his life to the fullest and rejoices in his fate. And if there is no money, no family, and God has deprived of abilities, what to do? How to change the destiny and live more interesting and It turns out that not everything is so simple.
No one forbids us to live the way we dream. Fate is not an axiom, but rather a choice. The question of whether it is possible to change fate is considered by esotericists from a slightly different angle than ordinary people. They believe that we are not supposed to experience any suffering from the very beginning. Our destiny is like a road with many forks. Every day, even every moment, we make our choice, determining the direction in which to move on. Any step can change your life forever. Our memory keeps such cases. Isn't this fate?! For example, he went to the store - he met a girl, an affair arose with all the consequences. What if he didn't go? Would these relationships be?
Fate can be changed!
It turns out that our every action changes events. Even such a trifle as a trip on public transport can affect a lifetime.
Imagine: one person gets into a minibus and meets his future spouse, the other gets into an accident and becomes disabled. Fates are different, they talk about such events. But after all before incident was own decision.
The man created all this with his own hands (he got into the minibus). It turns out that asking whether it is possible to change fate is not worth it. Answer: yes! But how to do it? How to find out which minibus to get into in order to get married, and not get into an accident?
Is it possible to change fate with prayers?
True faith can work miracles. Negative events can be eliminated from your life if you think in a certain way. For example, believers offer prayers to the Lord, relying on his help. Thus, they try to attract good things into their lives, pushing away the negative. That is, if, according to the fate of a person, serious illnesses are assigned, they can be avoided if you sincerely believe in the care of the Higher Forces. Prayer is believed to protect. The only condition is true faith. Doubt and pray is not worth it. You will waste your time. You need to trust the Higher Forces with all your heart, then they will help change your destiny.
Why is this happening? As esotericists comment, the Higher Forces lead the believing person to the destination. And the fulfillment of the main mission is the path to happiness in earthly life.
Here is the answer to the question of how to change fate for the better. You need to fulfill your destiny, then everything will turn out like magic. The Higher Powers do not wish anyone a hard fate, they only help everyone create the conditions for the best fulfillment of their mission on Earth!
Surely, each of us at least once in our lives thought about whether it is possible to change our fate, or whether everything is predetermined from above and we can only be content with what heaven has predicted for us. On the one hand, even the lines on the hands tell everything about our future, but on the other hand, any of our actions can change subsequent events. So how can you still change your fate for the better, if it does not turn out the way we would like it to?
In order to better understand the divine and universal laws that affect our lives, let's imagine such an allegory. Changing fate is like climbing a ladder, at the bottom of which lie all our problems. Have you heard such a wise philosophical saying that you need to look at the problem from the outside and then the solution will come by itself? It is this postulate that underlies the answer to such a global question: "How to change fate for the better?" You need to climb a few steps up the stairs and look at your life from a height, finally stop identifying yourself with your problems, see them on a different scale. The catch is that climbing even one step of your ladder is a very difficult task that many people cannot do. Why? Because behind each of us weighs a heavy bag of almost unbearable load. It is he who does not allow us to take a step up the stairs, look at our lives with different eyes, and most importantly, begin to change our destiny.
What's in this bag?
Of course, one can list for a long time all the negative emotions that have accumulated in our souls, unforgiven insults, fears, anger, envy, and so on. Of course, they are behind us. But all of this can be summed up in one word – selfishness. Blind, all-encompassing, big selfishness. Our egos have become so inflated that we cannot take even one step up the stairs. It chains us to problems, focuses our eyes on them, and makes us feel like a victim of our circumstances.
How can you throw off all this burden, calm your ego and easily climb up the stairs? Exists a few recommendations to change fate for the better:
1. Reduce your pride. Pride feeds our ego with fresh forces, and therefore, first of all, it is necessary to work with it. The main way to overcome pride is prayer, worship of saints, and the performance of church rites. In the old days, people bowed not only to the images of saints on icons, but also to their parents. Try to mentally imagine the image of the father and mother and bow to each several times. You need to perform this rite every day after waking up. This is very helpful in quelling pride.
2. Learn to control two organs - tongue and genitals. Most people are slaves of their tongue, because they are unable to stop swearing, discussing other people's destinies, weaving intrigues, and also slaves of their genitals, since sexual pleasure becomes the meaning of their life.
The fool and the wise cannot be distinguished from each other until they speak.
Indian wisdom.
The same goes for the genitals. People have made sex a cult, the main pleasure and even the meaning of life. Such lust feeds their animal nature, moving away from the spiritual. And the animal principle is the Ego, only in other words.
4. Let go of unforgiven grievances through forgiveness. Then it will not only be easier to climb the stairs, but also to breathe. All bad thoughts and memories lie like a stone in your soul, it's just that after time they are forgotten and cease to be perceived sharply. But that doesn't mean they don't exist! So forgive, forgive and forgive again!
5. Raise the level of development of consciousness. The less egoism a person has, the closer he is to the Creator and the more chances he has to change his destiny. Therefore, practice various meditations, do yoga, study the spiritual laws described in the scriptures. When you begin to understand the secrets of the universe, your worldview will change radically, reducing your Ego as well.
Change for the better!
Many people dream of changing their destiny, rewriting the history of life, changing the circumstances that happen to them. The practices described in this article will help you come to terms with your destiny, but you will have to start with transforming yourself.
How often can you meet people who hate their life, but do not try to change it, improve it, make it better. In order not to become one of these people, we recommend that you use a simple technique that will help you understand yourself, your desires, understand what you need to strive for, and change your destiny. Absolutely everyone has their own purpose, there are no exceptions. Also, each person has his own unique ones, thanks to which he can show himself from the best side. The problem is that it is not so easy to understand your true task. We present you with a three-step methodology that will help you start a new life.
Step one: awareness
There will be no positive change in your life until you make the decision to change it. It is enough to wake up with the thought that the time has come to change something. In order not to wait a long time for such thoughts, we recommend that you ask yourself three questions that will help you understand yourself. Try to answer as honestly as possible:
- What in life, destiny and in you (in your opinion) is wrong?
- What specifically do you not like?
- What would you like to change right now?
And here is the first practice. Take a piece of paper and write down three to five points about each area of your life. If it’s hard for you to gather your thoughts right away, think about each question for as long as you need: a day, a week, a month.
What do you not like about your own life and what would you like to change?
- In a relationship with a loved one;
- In relationships with loved ones, friends, relatives;
- In relationships with children, brothers or sisters;
- In relationships with parents, grandparents;
- At work;
- In your material wealth;
- In itself;
- In its appearance;
- In a state of health.
This list is your starting point on the path to finding yourself. We recommend that you refer to it from time to time, track progress, notice changes, remind yourself which areas of your life continue to hinder your success.
Step two: choosing a direction
The mere realization that there are things in your destiny that stop you is not enough. It is important to understand what to do with this indisputable fact further, how to change the state of your life. Being at this stage, you need to choose the right direction so as not to completely go astray. The easiest way to find your purpose is through action. If you do not know what you want from life, try everything: someday luck will certainly smile at you. However, this method requires enormous expenditures of energy, time and resources. There is a better way - to connect your life experience. The following practice will help you with this. After completing the exercises, you will be able to find the correct course, which is currently hidden from you.
1. What would you do if you were rich?
Try to imagine that you are incredibly rich: what would you do? For efficiency, you can write down the very amount that can make you happy and make you feel completely secure. Let's say you've already become fabulously wealthy, now what? Write down five things you would do first. Attention: this should be precisely a matter for the benefit of society, and not an idle occupation like "traveling the world." Now your goal is to come up with a job for yourself that will make you a happy person.
2. What would you do if you were a beggar?
Now let's go from the opposite. Imagine that you were fired from your job, you went bankrupt and lost all your savings, you have no money left for a normal existence. Think about the kind of work that you could earn a living. Remember: this is your way to start a new life, so choose a job that you like. Make a list of five items.
3. In what job would you become a rich person if you were paid for it with happiness?
This is the last task you need to complete. Here you need to write the five most favorite things with which you are ready to earn yourself real happiness. You can list your hobbies. Please note that doing nothing is not considered a correct answer.
Step Three: Action
This is the most important stage, the climax. Without this, the two previous points, as well as the desire to change one's destiny, will remain only pipe dreams. Awareness will help you understand yourself, choosing a direction will help you decide on a goal in life, and action will help you change your life. Break down your main goal into several small but realistic steps in the chosen direction. And remember: only you are the creator of your happiness, your destiny is in your hands!
The search for your destiny is the beginning of the path leading to a happy life. Through the troubles you have had to endure, try to appreciate your past - without belittling or idealizing it. Start tracking your progress, analyze your past mistakes, reward yourself even for tiny successes. Happiness always starts small. We wish you success. be happy and don't forget to press the buttons and
